EP248: Amberly Lago's 1% Chance to Live
Episode Notes
When does gratitude become self-betrayal? Amberly Lago joins me to talk trauma, burnout, healing, and her PACER method that helps high performers reset without losing their edge.
ou know that moment when you’re holding it all together with duct tape and hustle—but inside, you're bone tired and wondering why you still feel off even though you have so much to be grateful for?
Amberly Lago is a bestselling author, speaker, and resilience coach who’s survived the kind of trauma that would wreck most people—sexual abuse, addiction, 34 surgeries, and chronic pain that literally has the nickname “the suicide disease.”
We talk about what happens when gratitude starts masking the real healing that needs to happen. I challenge Amberly on what it means to bypass our pain with toxic positivity—and her response is honest, powerful, and packed with tools.
You’ll hear:
How to recognize when burnout gets mislabeled as laziness
Amberly’s PACER Method (Perspective, Acceptance, Community, Endurance, Rest)
What to do when gratitude feels like a guilt trip
How to reset when your nervous system is fried
The real reason connection isn’t optional (especially for high performers)
Why joy isn’t fluffy—it’s earned
Amberly is the real deal. This one stays with you.
⏱ Notable Timestamps
04:00 – Why Amberly left LA: trauma + safety
07:00 – Lessons in grit from early life
12:30 – The motorcycle crash that changed everything
24:00 – Alcoholism, chronic pain, and the moment of reckoning
35:20 – Gratitude vs bypassing: when enough isn’t enough
47:05 – The PACER framework breakdown
59:45 – Being a Joy Sparker + redefining connection
1:01:30 – Unstoppable Success Summit info
🔗 Resources from the Episode:
💥 Amberly's new book: Joy Through the Journey
🎤 Her event: Unstoppable Success Summit – April 25–26, Dallas
🌐 Website & coaching: amberlylago.com
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